Finding My Feminine

In a riveting record from personal journals, Finding My Feminine shares the story of Beth Dunn’s soul: a female Baby Boomer raised Catholic in America who failed at romance with her boyfriend and instead found herself trying to experience love with a girlfriend. Driven by the basic need for love, but thwarted by her inability to draw close enough to either gender to satisfy her longing, Beth finally let God work on her behalf. This book shows how each of Beth’s halting steps brought her increased integration as she confessed her weaknesses, forgave those who wounded her, lived chastely, and most of all, received the Father’s love as His daughter—both beautiful and feminine.

Inside the pages of this book, Beth writes: 

Despite the fact that I never yielded my body to unnatural sexual relations with women, I needed to reckon with both same sex attraction and gender confusion. To become a victor in life I had to become my authentic self: the female God made me to be. Ideally, the culture, the community, and the Church should support people who want to be similarly victorious.

The culmination of my search to find my true feminine is to be free enough to express my heart with all the love in it. . . .

I am a work in progress and always will be, but with a heart of flesh I am now liberated to share love with others. In the end I am . . . truly feminine.

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There’s a key to chastity that I didn’t know at this stage in my life: chastity unlocks power to integrate the people who practice it. – Beth Dunn

“The chaste person maintains the integrity of the powers of life and love placed in him. This integrity ensures the unity of the person; it is opposed to any behavior that would impair it.” (CCC, 2338)

What readers have said . . . 

“I will have to say it was a page-turner for me. Your style and content kept me engaged until the end. SSA and gender dysphoria are very timely subjects. I think your book could help many young people. At least, an open discussion of these issues which it neither condemning nor affirming is needed. What we are getting now is a an extremely frightening claim that medical intervention can elevate the psychological pain of theses ‘disorders,’ when, in fact, such procedures only exacerbate the confusion and intrench it with permanence. The real treatment is the one you sought and found. Hence the perfect title, Finding my Feminine.” (MK, Lexington KY)

“Your book is so good; I devoured it, learned and appreciated your honesty. Many will find treasures and answers, that will guide them towards healing and ultimately peace with God and who God created them to be.” (CDY, Palmdale, CA)

“You’re reaching out to mothers and grandmothers. The man is the spiritual head of the family but in many ways the mother is the heart. And her tears and prayers have great weight. So you’re giving us mothers and grandmother’s words for things that we see in our families. Many of us do not know how to address this when we see a niece or a nephew, and all of a sudden this nephew’s effeminate or our niece is only bringing around female friends and acting a lot more masculine herself. This book gives us options for how to address them in a loving way so that we can accept the person but not approve their mistakes.” (SH, Cincinnati, OH)